Episode 2

Overcoming Conflict; How to Fight Fair in God’s Way

Let’s be absolutely honest! No one is immune; we all face conflicts in one way or another. Some of us fight more than others, and sometimes we aren’t fair with our counterparts which makes conflict detrimental.  Experiencing conflict does not mean it’s the end. It’s an opportunity for change and growth within your relationship.  Learning how to resolve conflict fairly in godly ways and moving forward is key, especially with someone you love.

 

Join the conversation with your co-host Liza and Dr. Lidia Martinez as we share conflict resolution techniques based on self-awareness, others’ awareness, and God-awareness. Dr. Martinez is a licensed mental health counselor, a marriage and family therapist, and a certified master’s level addiction professional.

In This Episode, You Will Learn About: 

[00:44] Dr. Martinez back story

[02:14] Some of the things standing in the way of conflict resolution

[04:06] Our Responsibilities in conflict Resolution

[08:32] Tools that Liza uses when hurt, bothered and angry

[11:09] How to recognize God’s timing versus your timing

[16:58] The role of the Holy Spirit in conflict resolution

[19:27] Importance of forgiveness in resolving conflict

[25:34] Steps to make peace in a kind and gentle way when feeling hurt

[28:52] Praying for those who hurt you 

[30:40] Relationship between our emotions and health

[31:33] About Constance book “Relational Wisdom 360.”

[35:07] Benefits of self-awareness, others awareness, and God-awareness

[40:32] You’re not alone, and you’re not made to be alone

[45:10] Closing scripture and prayer

 

How you can make peace through the helper “Holy Spirit” (18:00) 

 

1# Accept that you’re not perfect and you make mistakes

2# Recognize that God is real and his love is on a rescue mission to find you

3# Find a local church, read the scriptures and find Christian friends

4# Continually forgive, show kindness and grace in all your circles

 

Steps to make peace in a kind and gentle way when feeling hurt (25:34)

 

1# Be real with God, talk to God about your true feeling (Col 3:12-15)

2# Ask for healing from the pain, don’t carry the pain with you

3# Pray for the person who hurt you

4# Recognize if there is a need to show up and talk about it. Some conflicts don’t need to be dealt with at all, just forgive and move on.

5# Forgive, make peace, and show kindness

 

 

 

Notable Quotes: 

●      Unforgiveness is like being stabbed with a knife, taking it out, and putting it in your pocket to stab yourself, again and again, to remind yourself of what happened.

●      The Holy Spirit is a peacemaker. He leads us to peace with God and others

●      Forgiveness is a calling that we all have in our life

●      Forgiveness is a process, and it’s not a one-time occurrence

●      God doesn’t call you to something without enabling and empowering you to do it

●      Every conflict doesn’t have to be dealt with immediately, and some conflicts just don’t need to be dealt with at all.

Connect with Lidia Martinez

Website: https://www.drlidiamartinez.com/

Email: info@drlidiamartinez.com

 

Keywords: Conflict, Resolution, Forgiveness, peace, 

 

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